Friday, July 29, 2011

Thinking about Him - the heart of the matter

I've posted several discussions on the subject of love, relationships, and dating, but they all deal with the outward more than the inward.  And as we should realize before we try and change anything about ourselves, is that anything that happens on the outside, is really just a reflection of the heart.  [Matt. 23:25-28, Mark 7:14 and 7:20-23]
 
So it makes sense when Jesus said "If you love Me, you will obey My commands..."  John 14:23-24, and also "By this, all men will know you are my disciples..."  John 13:35.  It is not by "good-works" we are saved, but righteous things we do are only proof that we know and love God.
 
So, what if you have something going on in your mind, maybe even just bouncing around in there, pretty harmless, but it won't be masked for long. [Eph 2:8-9, Isaiah 64:8, Psalm 32:5]
  Now that we know this, what if, since we are girls and tend to be a bit sentimental and romantic, we find ourselves thinking about guys... all the time.  What if we find ourselves thinking about one particular fellow.  Though thoughts are just the beginning, they are the hardest to wriggle out of, as reflected in Psalm 13:2. But, there is good news! Psalm 139:23 states that God knows all about us, and that He knows and understands our thoughts. 
"For the LORD searches every heart and understands every motive behind the thoughts..."  1 Cor 28:9, see also see Hebrews 4:12
Sometimes that scares us.  We think "God knows all my thoughts?  So He knows that this good stuff is all just a facade, and He knows the real me, all the time?!"  But don't worry!  It is a good thing to realize our less-than-perfect state next to a Holy God, but it is also quite a relief to all of us that this Holy God also has compassion on our lowly position.
And God can graciously and gently help us deal with our thoughts.

I think we all can agree that the topic of boys is
over-obsessed in most girl's circles.

One thing we all should know is that Nature Hates a Vacuum. 

[Vacuum according to Merriam-Webster online dictionary - 1vac·u·um noun \ˈva-(ˌ)kyüm, -kyəm also -kyü-əm\   Plural vac·u·ums or vac·ua\-kyə-wə\ Definition of VACUUM 1: emptiness of space  2a : a space absolutely devoid of matter]  

A vacuum is an area of nothingness. Trying to get rid of unwanted thoughts is like trying to run a marathon in a vacuum.  Depressing?  Let me say it again:
 Trying to get rid of unwanted thoughts is impossible unless you have something to replace them with.

When you find yourself thinking of that guy at church, the sweet young man who held the door for you at Walmart, the fella across the street, or anything, here are a few things you can do.
  • Memorize Scripture verses to quote when you are tempted. Psalm 119:11.  God's Word is so powerful it can divide bones and marrow. Hebrews 4:12.  It will certainly help.
  • Pray!  If you know Jesus as your Savior, then he will listen to you indefinitely, and answer you how He knows is best. 1 Timothy 2:1, Eph 6:18, Phil 4:6, Jer 29:12.
  • Monitor your conversation.  Keeping the thoughts inside may only incubate them to multiply and grow.  Having a prayer journal in which you actually speak to God on paper helps you to visualize bringing yourself to Him.  Also, when girls get together, you may have noticed that one of the main topics is... you guessed it... boys.  Avoid those conversations at all costs.  Speaking to a mentor who is older than you and has proved themself wise in these areas is a great thing to do. 1 Cor 7:9Titus 2:3-5, Gal 6:1, Prov 6:25, 1 Cor 5:9, Matt 6:13,   Confession is good for the soul.
  • Avoid triggers.  Whereas most of the time you just can't help seeing guys, looking at certain magazines, going into specific stores at the mall, or viewing chic flicks are things you can avoid. James 1:14, Matt 16:33.
  • Make sure that you are walking with God every day!  If the devil knows that if we are not spending quality, intimate time with God every single day, then he knows that you will be weakened.  You will also not be filled with that awairness of His Word as much as you are when a daily devotional time is a concrete part in your day.
Keep your mind and heart on God before all else!

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