While at the movie theater to view The Hobbit, (which I'd recommend seeing,) I had to sit through many trailers and previews that I always either hate for their worldly content or laugh at for their sheer stupidity. One of those was a post-apocalypse zombie movie called Warm Bodies. I was utterly disgusted! An "undead" brain-eater falls for a human girl for no apparent reason, and when they form a "relationship" her life brings his heart back to beating. In essence, she brings him back to life, and in turn saves the whole community of those poor old shivering, shambling, lifeless zombies. After all, they can't help that they eat people, right? Oh dear, this is most disturbing. This culture has been giving the message through magazines, movies, articles, and even video games that sometimes it takes a virgin heroine to make a player into an irresistible hero. Good grief, the guy doesn't even have to be alive anymore!
So which will it be? A sad story of yet another naive, sympathetic girl wasting her time and love on someone who will use her, and whisper whatever he knows she wants to hear gently in her ear before leaving her for someone just as stupid... or the story of the little lady who was taught a few things, and helped a lonely man into the way of life, saving the world in the process? We all want to be optimistic. After all, the "good side" always wins in the end, right? Well, I hate to break it to ya, but that isn't the way it wins. The light-bearers always have the option of snuffing out their little candle.
I really truly believe that every girl wants to see her femininity and goodness save the ragamuffin. This, I believe, is how we are wired - to help our man! But there are good ways and bad ways to do that, and one mustn't give up their self-respect. The feminist movement isn't fooling me. As much as women may want to feel independent and above men, we are created to be a "help-meet," as the Bible calls it. We want to fix, support, and help our man, and when we see a man in need, we just might want to help him. It is a tendency that goes way back. Ever read or watched Jane Eyre? Miss Eyre, the secluded, quiet, virgin orphan, who grew up in a strict orphanage expecting complete submission and religion, comes to work as a governess. But a governess for the lustful Mr. Rochester, who, lets just say, has been around the block a couple of times. In fact, he's been all around Europe, and now has a little girl of questionable origin in his castle-of-a-home, needing an education. But Mr Rochester has secrets, and when one in his castle tower comes to light - after he's secured the affections of little Jane - he pleads her to accept him regardless. She wants to. Oh! How she wants to! But unlike the "heroic" ladies in contemporary novels, Jane makes the right decision. She says "no," even though it breaks her heart. But, you see, she is made of more stuff than most any women running around the hotels in London. And as for Rochester, well, he comes to his due reward, and ends up much like the infamous player Samson, disfigured of his charm, and unable to see what so easily entangled him. He is helpless and poor, and at the mercy of "little virgin Jane." A strange twist that is rather fitting, I'd wager. But never mind the spoiler ending, the point is in Jane's decision. You see, she knows who she is, and therefore knows what she is above. She can see through her lover's wily charm which disarmed so many, even though I'm sure he liked her very much. She could not change him; he would only change her.
|"ONLY God can warm|
a cold heart"
I'm not saying that a good girl can have absolutely no positive effect on the opposite. But there is a right way and a wrong way to do that. Frankly, I think the best way is to leave them to themselves, and pray for them. You cannot change anyone... only God can warm a cold heart. But God does use a pure example to guide his lost children to the light. Pure, not snobbish; but pure, not compromising. God tells us specifically not to let evil overcome good, but to overcome evil with good. He also commands us not to be unequally yoked, and to flee from temptation.
So, in conclusion, why all this confusion?! Why don't people realize this? Warm Bodies, the movie, is expected to be tops in the box office, and has glowing reviews most everywhere (check out www.pluggedin.com if you want a review from a more Christian worldview).
Well, I think it all boils down to this: This world is corrupted. It has been ever since the very first man and women thought they knew better than God and disobeyed Him. Everything good and honorable that God designed has been twisted and corrupted. Yes, He offers redemption, thank the blood of Jesus, but Satan is still the prince of this world. Women were never intended to be weak, and men were never meant to abuse; neither were women designed to be dominant, nor men to be stupid. Yes, we are to help others. Yes, we are to show the light, but for Pete's sake, ladies, let someone else save them!
"No one is more attractive to a lady than a rogue redeemed." - Father Brown, (British Mystery TV Series)
Another article on the matter: The Character Therapist - YA/New Adult "Good Girl Saves Bad Boy" Myth Problematic.
"How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word." - Psalm 119:9
"do not take part in the sins of others; keep yourself pure." - 1 Timothy 5:22