|Reflecting on 2014|
Heading into year 2015, the web is a bustle with resolutions, motivation, newness and already a few regrets. I usually don't make a big deal out of January 1st. I'm not a party-er, I still worked, and it kind of messed up my week's rhythm (not to be a downer). Plus, all the hype only gives way to disappointment at the first signs of defeated goals. Maybe it's just my easy-goes-it, analytic personality that likes to take it slow and make sure I have the right goals in place and have what I
With that bit of perspective, why don't you write down some milestones, accomplishments, or life events that happened in 2014. Then, instead of making resolutions, make a list of things - not even goals, necessarily - that you would like to write on next year's list of simple reflections. Then, if it so behooves you, make your goals and resolutions. This activity has proved stress-free for me, since I refuse to see these lists as defining. They're simply something to bring perspective; something to ponder.
And with that being said, here is my list of happenings (and not all of them positive) from year twenty fourteen, in no particular order:
- Gained 3 more foster-siblings
- Started making my own skin-care products
- Quit online college
- Cut 12 inches off my hair
- Colored hair for the first time (highlights)
- Re-organized my room and gave away/threw away over half my "stuff"
- Started doing henna tattoos
- Buried my dog, "Little Guy"
- Bought my first car ('99 Toyota Corolla)
- Got a pay raise
- Discovered the importance of getting enough rest
- Lost 2 grandparents
- Moved into my own apartment
- Started a second job
- Made lots of new friends and connections
- Turned 20
- Started canning veggies and preserves
- Started HIIT workout program
- Spent time with my older brother
- Started sponsoring Manisha from India through Compassion International
- Decorated my own home for Christmas
- Finally dealt with some hurtful memories in a healthy way
- Learned (and learning) that trusting in God brings true joy
- Started up writing again
- Got glasses
- Learned new job skills
- Making all food from scratch
- Dealt with a bout of unexpected depression
- Celebrated Christmas with family
- Developed a deeper relationship with my parents
- Re-discovered meaningful Bible reading
- Enjoying work more
- Attended a coaching workshop
- Living frugally
|November 2014, 20th birthday|
There you go, there's 1 year in hindsight. Of course there's much more that I could have added, had I thought about it longer (that list took me 5-10 minutes), and just a few things that I didn't want to add publicly. And then there's the whole issue of not ending my list on an odd number (darn that OCD).
I encourage you to write down at least 20 things that happened in 2014. Comment a few of them.
And now for my 2015-16 list. These are the things I would very much like to be able to write as life-events in my reflections next year, in 2016, about 2015. (Remember, this list is simply a "whouldnt-that-be-nice." My hard-set goals will be boiled down even farther. That way I won't become discouraged, and I'll actually be able to accomplish the really important ones.)
- Planted and kept a garden
- Advanced in my careers
- Canned all my own canned goods
- Became more connected with Christian adults in the community
- Started classes on coaching
- Read over 100 books
- Wrote a devotional booklet
- Started singing in choir
- Wrote to my sister in the military
- Opened up my home for ministry/mentorship
- Completely organized my home
- Developed better relationship with family
- Was able to sell my artwork and song lyrics
- Memorized over 100 Bible verses
- DIY decorated my apartment
- Grew my hair out again
But as great as some of these would be as resolutions, I think that it is far better to simply focus on becoming a better person, growing closer to God, living in step with the Holy Spirit, and becoming a servant to the people around me. So if it comes down to canning that last jar of tomato sauce or studying my Bible, I had better choose the latter!
The reason New Year Resolutions so often fail is because we resolve to change our actions or bodies without changing our hearts and minds. And even many Christians, sadly enough, aren't that familiar with Romans 12:1, "I beseech you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices to God, holy and pleasing in His sight. This is your spiritual act of worship. Do not be conformed to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is. His good, pleasing, and perfect will." And even this renewal cannot be obtained by simply trying hard and kicking old habits. This is an act of God. Only He can change hearts and minds and conform them to His own.
But now that you've reflected, learned, and are on the path to transformation through Jesus Christ, behold, God is doing new things!
"Forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!" Isaiah 43:18